A Mere Spider Bite Can Ruin You (Life Is Short)

On the morning of July 27th, 2011, I woke up to a strong itching sensation on my chest. I didn’t think much of it until I realized, “hey, this itch is not going away and it’s very strong.” Then I look down at my chest – where the itch was located – and see two distinct little dots. I was hoping that I had an itchy freckle and zit side-by-side, but no…

These were fang (or chelicerae) marks.

I began to throw the kitchen sink at Google. I’m a little surprised their server didn’t crash with how many searches I was submitting.

“Spider bite marks”

“Spider bite symptoms”

“Spider bite treatment”

“Identify Spider Bite”

“Venomous North Carolina spiders”

“Caring for a pet spider that bit you affectionately”

One of the Scariest Moments of My Life

With some competition from vomiting bile for the first time, the following 2-3 hours were the scariest in my life. The single scariest moment was the instant I felt a systemic response. My entire body began to shake. I nearly passed out.

*knocks on dad’s door*

Me: “Um….A spider bit me.”

Dad: “Ok, I’ll be right out.”

*waits 8 seconds, worried that I’ll collapse before I can explain the situation*

Me: “It could be serious.”

I grab an ice pack on the way out the door and hold it to my chest, hoping to slow the neurotoxic venom that was flowing through my bloodstream.

Emergency Room

I was thinking black widow. The symptoms matched up perfectly and it seemed very severe.

As I am sitting next to my dad and he drives to the emergency room, he looks over at my convulsing body and says, “holy smokes.” (I don’t know if other people say that, haha.)

The next thing you know it, I’m filling out paperwork which – as you guessed – is my preferred activity when I only control some of my muscle movement.

Somewhat quickly, we are let in and the testing and questioning begins. Since entering the ER, my symptoms are actually fading (ice pack?!). The doctor eventually comes in, looks at my chest for 5 seconds and confirms I was bitten.

Next thing I know, I’m getting a shot in the butt (it hurt) and taking a pill. I asked a lot of questions about what they’re giving me and why. They gave me a strong steroid and strong benedryll type of pill.

Medically, I MUST know what’s going on. I’m not the kind of person that can blindly trust a doctor with my health (unless I’m in dire straits and need immediate attention). I think I’m an expert on spider bites now. :-D

Another scary moment happens – I begin to feel very flushed – one of the worst feelings in the world I think. It’s the feeling that comes before a vomit. It bothers me so much because of how systemic it is. Your whole body sends you the message at the same time – “something is wrong here.” It makes me feel completely helpless.

As I’m about to throw up (hate it), I realize I haven’t eaten hardly anything. My dad saves the day and recommends I lie down. Relief is quick.

The doctor prescribes me three drugs – antibiotics, prednisone, and an anti-itch drug. I looked at the drugs carefully and decided to get the Prednisone and the anti-itch medicine, while leaving the antibiotics. The reason was that I was feeling much much better and didn’t expect to take any of them. (I felt that I had wasted a few hundred bucks going to the ER – though I’d make the same decision again in a heartbeat. Better safe than sorry – especially with health).

Back Home - The Unexpected Adventure

At home I relax, sleep, eat.

It seems as if the scare is over and I feel fine. Now that I’m back home and feeling ok – I have an appointment with a creature I hope is still in my room. I thought of setting up a tiny torture chamber custom built for it, but ultimately decided it was too much work.

I search everywhere and find a tiny dead spider that I know isn’t the culprit.

Then out in the hall, dad says he sees a bug in the corner and it’s pretty big. It was pretty far away and hard to see.  The ground underneath it was the bottom step about 12 feet below (see picture). I squinted over the banister upstairs (just outside my room) and thought it was a spider, though it just looked like a nickel-sized dark spot.

spider found here

We found the spider had set up his silky home here in this corner. 

Revenge

Naturally, my dad picks up the granite cleaning spray and we all get into our positions.

Dad is halfway up the stairs with the “weapon,” I am at the top of the stairs in case spidey retreats up the wall, and mom is…not interested in joining us. :-)

We want to kill it, but not squash it (so we can examine it).

It starts out boring. Dad is spraying it and it doesn’t seem to care at first. It’s moving slowly as it gets covered in the mist. But as far as we can tell, it is harming the spider.

The excitement starts when the spider drops a line and begins to descend…

spider

Dad has a container and tries to line it up so spidey descends right into the bottle. Well, he misses a little bit and the spider lands on the rim.

So as I see dad moving towards the kitchen with the spider/bottle saying he has it, he suddenly makes a terrifying-sounding surprised gasp that scares everyone. Was dad bit too?

No.

The spider jumps and he doesn’t know where.

As I come rushing down the stairs to help, unfortunately I’m wearing socks and slip dramatically on the laminate floor at the bottom of the steps. Can you guess why? The granite cleaner was dripping down from the corner dad sprayed right onto the floor. It is very slick.

So as I’m doing my best matrix impression, dad and mom are screaming at each other in the excitement. Then I start screaming at dad to let him know I nearly broke my neck on his “pesticide.” So we’re all screaming at each other and the spider is probably thinking, “why did I choose this house?”

It was quite the scene (and yes, I was laughing some in the midst of the chaos).

We see the spider, so dad sprays him more and I put a cup over him.

Eventually I flipped it over and filled it 20% full with rubbing alcohol to make sure the spider dried and died.

Game over, spidey. :-)

The Eye of The Hurricane

I examined the little creature that had caused me so much worry, fear, grief, and discomfort. It wasn’t clear-cut, but I was 89% sure it was an american house spider. The symptoms of such a spider’s bite were like that of the Black Widow but less severe (depending on allergies). It was a perfect match with my symptoms and a pretty solid match on visual research.

At this point I figured it was merely interesting. Other than occasional itching at the spot, I felt fine. A few days passed.

Then Tuesday morning, nearly the exact thing happened (except the bite was already there). I woke up with it itching badly. I looked down and saw that the bite had formed a small pimple-like mark.

I had symptoms: feeling flush, dry mouth (with white on tongue), severe itching, general nausea.

Long story short, I feared infection and ran to pick up my antibiotics. As I continued to feel horrible, I told my mom and got in to see the family doctor as a staph infection is very serious and I wanted to catch it early (if it was to be).

I get in to see the doctor and ask a zillion questions while explaining the course of events. She looks at the bite mark and isn’t worried because of the lack of on-site swelling/redness/etc. I get blood taken for precautionary testing and she advises me to take antibiotics and prednisone to fend off potential infection or systemic allergic response (cover the bases).

A Miserable Day

Drugs. Ugh.

I am still taking the antibiotics (and probably will continue to because I’m shell-shocked and frightened of infections at the moment).  The Prednisone though…I’m finished with…I hope. :-(

The side effects of this drug are horrible. It suppresses the immune system and makes your body go crazy. I took 20mg at lunch time and it prevented me from sleeping.  I think made me more susceptible to my least favorite feeling of the body sporadically feeling flush (essentially like a hot flash I think – don’t make fun :-D ).

About 2 hours ago – in my bed – I calculated that my RESTING heartrate was somewhere around 110 BPM (normal is about 68 for me). Um…no thanks. I called the pharmacist to make sure it was ok to stop taking prednisone and she said yes. You can’t stop taking it cold after long term use (serious consequences), but I had only taken the one dose so it was ok.

So here I am. I don’t feel perfect, but I feel alright. I receive the blood results tomorrow.  If you’ve been wondering what I’ve been up to the past week, now you know. I’ve been a little…preoccupied.

One thing I know is that I want this to be over. I want to look down at my chest and not see those ominous little bumps. I want to know that I’m going to be ok.

I guess I’m not so tough after all. A mere spider has brought me to my proverbial knees. I know this might seem mild to you (and it is relative to many things), but the constant uncertainty and lack of control about what might go wrong next has forced me to stare death in the face and I was terrified.

I rarely get sick and don’t have health insurance, so this was a definite, sudden shock.


If I found out for sure my time was up, I hope I’d be able to get things together mentally…but sometimes life blindsides you. I have developed much more compassion for others with health problems because of this experience. I (predictably) appreciate life and health more now.

Life is short. I want to live accordingly – spiritually, with family, friends, work, passions….everything. How can we get caught up in the petty things and argue with those we love when we might die tomorrow?

I don’t care if that’s cliche. It’s real to me now.

P.S. I had a big problem with anxiety during this time. I tried The Linden Method and it helped a lot. What’s even more impressive is I’m pretty sure my anxiety was chemical, but it still helped me. If you have anxiety problems, I recommend it. The audio tapes are the best. Get it here.

 

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  • http://www.stonepeoplepublishing.com Patricia Troyer

    Okay — now look at all of the above symbolically…gets really intriguing once the physical panic goes back in its cage. Feel better. Best, Patricia

    • http://deepexistence.com/ Stephen Guise

      Yeah, this whole experience has been very uncomfortable…and yet very good at the same time. I believe I have a more accurate view of life now.

      • http://www.stonepeoplepublishing.com Patricia Troyer

        No doubt. And if this had all been a dream, what do you think its message would be? If that spider could talk, what would it want to say to you? You to it? Remind you of anything going on in your life right now? (Okay — so I think too much sometimes — but it’s fun…keeps things from getting ordinary.)

        • http://deepexistence.com/ Stephen Guise

          I’m not exactly sure how it would go, but it’d be similar to this…

          Spider: “Stephen, I am biting you for your own good. This is going to scare you enough that you’re not going to take any moment for granted anymore.”

          Stephen:”Ouch! I feel terrible.”

          *one week later*

          Stephen: “Thanks for the wake-up call spider. Sorry I killed you though.”

          • http://www.stonepeoplepublishing.com Patricia Troyer

            Oh, good work, Stephen! You are definitely on the mend. Have a better tomorrow…

  • http://valleyhomerenewal.blogspot.com/ katherine lins

    reading this made my skin crawl. i just bug bombed the house yesterday. fleas from the cat. i am glad you are ok! and now am terrified of spiders.

    • http://deepexistence.com/ Stephen Guise

      Well, I’m less fearful of spiders now because of all the research I did. The only reason she bit me is because I happened to roll over on top of her in my sleep (an unlikely scenario). Spiders have no interest in biting us unless they feel like they need to in self-defense.

      There is also the fact that most spiders aren’t very dangerous or venomous even if they do bite you. When they do bite you, often times it is a “dry bite” in which they don’t inject venom.

      I think I happen to be more allergic than most to the particular spider that bit me. I went 25 years without getting a noticeable spider bite. It’s rare. That said, I’m not going to be petting spiders anytime soon. :-P

  • Meggie

    Great Macaroni. Stephen!! I am so glad you’re okay!!!

    • http://deepexistence.com/ Stephen Guise

      Thank you Meggie. I believe I’m fine now. :-)

      …(Great Macaroni indeed)

  • http://twohourblogger.com Martyn Chamberlin

    Wow dude this is really epic. Spider bites … man. Next to snakes, I’m afraid of spiders. I’d rather meet a cougar. (And yes, cougars live out here in Bixby.)

    I love the redesign around here. That blue color in the header absolutely rocks. I’m envious. :D

    • http://deepexistence.com/ Stephen Guise

      Yeah man, it was extreme. I would NOT want to face a freaking cougar though!

      A fact I learned yesterday: Do you know what the survival rate is for getting bit by a Black Mamba snake (Africa) without getting the anti-venom?

      ZERO. Nobody has ever survived without treatment. Yikes.

      Thanks! As you may have guessed, the reason that it’s good is because I didn’t design it. I’m learning to stick with my strengths and pay others to use theirs. :-D

  • http://www.Mazzastick.com Justin | Mazzastick

    Hey Stephen,
    I thought that you were going to say that you were bit by a brown recluse spider. Those things leave a nasty bite. Anyway, It’s great to hear that you are fine and won’t be having any longterm effects from the bite.

    • http://deepexistence.com/ Stephen Guise

      Hi Justin,

      No, thankfully. Those things are FrEakY! They are pretty huge too. The spider that bit me had a neurotoxic venom (attacks the nervous system) based on the symptoms I had, whereas the recluse has a necrotic venom (attacks the surrounding tissue). You may know this already, but I’m just saying for anyone who doesn’t.

      Thanks for your kind words. I’m very thankful that it was not a recluse (and it was the best guess based on the title of this post). Those are often the ones that end up in hospitalization. It is possible that it was a black widow, but I don’t think it was.

  • http://aks-blog.com Ashvini

    Ohhh mannn.
    Don’t talk about spiders. I think one bit me when I was camping on a company holiday in south of India. We had a few tents and I was sharing it with my boss and one more colleague. The hit became noticed only after fifteen days I think. In one night when I was sleeping, I was woken up by sense of vomiting and stomach upset.
    I felt so sick that I went at neighbour’s place and asked them to bring ambulance immediately. Doctors at the hospital immediately said (stupidly) “It is dehydration”. But the situation deteriorated and I was losing consciousness. They did not understand anything that was happening to me . They started pumping antibiotics in me which were broad spectrum( hits everything in sight). It took me seven days , enormous dosage of antibiotics that brought me back to life.
    I can never forget those seven days. It was just horrible. I could see crates of antibiotics shipped in and out of my hospital room.
    Soon I heard my boss was caught with it too. It was another hit on my morale. But good news is that we both survived. Glad to hear that you are doing well too. Just beware of that nasty spider and the more wild it is the more dangerous.
    Get well soon.

    • http://deepexistence.com/ Stephen Guise

      Hi Ashvini,

      My goodness your experience sounds terrible! That had to have been scary when nobody really knew what was wrong with you.

      That doesn’t sound like a spider bite to me though – I don’t know of any that have that much of a delayed response. It sounds more like an exotic illness or maybe you ate something bad? It is possible that a spider or something else bit you and it got infected. Why do you think it was a spider?

      That’s a crazy experience though. I’m glad the antibiotics worked and you’re ok!

      • http://aks-blog.com Ashvini

        Hey Stephen,

        Maybe it was some other thing. However my Boss suffered almost the same symptom which makes the story mysterious. He got sick exactly three days after I did.
        Whatever it was, I wish it would never happen to me again :) .
        Thanks for your wishes.
        Best regards,
        Ashvini

        • http://deepexistence.com/ Stephen Guise

          Wow, it sounds like whatever it was, it was contagious. It almost sounds like the doctors got lucky with the antibiotics since they didn’t know what it was. I also hope it never happens to you again!

          Have a great day Ashvini. I mean it!

  • http://www.beautifulbooksforchildren.com Rivka K

    Glad to hear your are on your way to feeling better! Definitely finish the antibiotics. If you want to Google something, look up antibiotic resistance. Scary stuff. We ALL need to do our part to make sure to take all our antibiotics, all the time, as prescribed, for the full round, so that antibiotics can continue to work like we need them to! Consider that the public service announcement for the day, lol. :-)

    • http://deepexistence.com/ Stephen Guise

      Hi Rivka,

      Thanks, I will continue my dosage. I would rather not contribute to antibiotic resistance! I agree that it will be a scary time if/when antibiotics don’t work anymore.

      Thanks for the public service announcement, lol.

  • http://www.getting-unstuck.com/ Riley Harrison

    My college had the spider as the team mascot (University of Richmond spiders). To this day I puzzle over what the selection committee must have been thinking to choose spiders as the team mascot. Glad you are OK.
    Riley

    • http://www.stonepeoplepublishing.com Patricia Troyer

      Yeah, definitely a strange choice for a University emblem. Maybe this can shed some light — the Ancient Egyptians used the spider as one of the symbols of the sun, a being who produced its threads and connections to the world through its own efforts, its inner strengths, and its powers of manifestation. In the Upanishads the spider symbolizes self-liberation through its ability to climb up its own threads spun from within itself from its own resources. But definitely always an ambivalent symbol, seen both as treacherous and as an announcer of good fortune. Even today the spider is used as a symbol of Fate, the Great Weaver and Spinner. Hope this gave you another way to look at spider…

    • http://deepexistence.com/ Stephen Guise

      With all of the mascots out there, someone was bound to choose a spider. :-)

      As Patricia says, I suppose a spider can be symbolic of other (positive) things besides the generally nasty creatures that they are. I do like that they eat other pests.

      Many people are scared of spiders. Maybe The University of Richmond wanted to intimidate the competition.

  • Shirls

    What a nasty experience, Stephen. I live in Africa and in the summer there are lots of creepy crawlies. Plus plenty of other wild life. Glad you’re on the mend and be careful.

    • http://deepexistence.com/ Stephen Guise

      Oh yeah, Africa does have some incredible animal life. Watch out for the Black Mamba snake! Thank you.

  • http://writeforlifejessicaflory.blogspot.com/ Jessica Flory

    This is the first post I’ve read on this site, and already I like it :) Sorry to hear about your traumatic experience, truly, but it is kind of funny.
    I, too, say ‘holy smokes’ and plague doctors with questions.
    Good luck with your recovery!

    • http://deepexistence.com/ Stephen Guise

      I’m glad you like it, Jessica! I’m glad you could get some laughs out of this. The “spider hunt” was very comical to look back on.

      You say “holy smokes” too? I really thought my dad was the only one. I’ve never heard anyone else say it!

      Thank you Jessica. I’m gettin’ better!

  • http://angelairvin.wordpress.com Angela

    Stephen . . . I get occupied with school, finish out the semester with an unexpected exam (will explain later), and then come back to find you sprawled out with fang marks in your chest?!!

    You are seriously pushing it . . . first the puffer fish, now a spider.

    All humor aside, I’m glad you are okay. Humor not aside – the visual of operation “Kill Spidey” was hilarious.

    Angela

    • http://deepexistence.com/ Stephen Guise

      Hahaha, yes…I am so extreme that I got the fang marks in my sleep. Most people don’t think anything half as exciting while they’re awake.

      You’re right! I’ve had some interesting encounters with nature lately.

      I’m glad the humor of “Kill Spidey” transferred over well into the writing, because it really was funny.

      Thank you Angela! I’m glad I’m okay too. :-)

  • Chris Jones@soundspott

    That was a nice description. I never get a spider bite(when I was a baby??). Now I’m feared about it. Not cause it’s hurting, staying in my room for an hour is nearly impossible for me- and the train-long line in front of the Doctor’s cabin- feel like my sick is over.
    #hatespiderbites
    Chris

    • http://deepexistence.com/ Stephen Guise

      Thanks Chris.

      I hate them too. Oddly enough, I am less frightened of them now that I’ve had one. I suppose I know what to expect now.

      • Chris Jones@soundspott

        The new theme is really great- it’s simple, attractive and not breaking my eyes like the last one(The doctor just advised me to take a power lens)

        • http://deepexistence.com/ Stephen Guise

          Haha, I would really rather not break your eyes, so it is great to hear that! Thank you Chris.

  • Tom

    Hi Stephen,
    Glad to hear you survived your ordeal. It makes you realise how lucky we are to have access to health care.

    Nothing like a close call to make you reevaluate your life. I live differently since I met a Great White Shark while kayaking a few years ago.

    Cheers,
    Tom

    • http://deepexistence.com/ Stephen Guise

      Hello Tom,

      Yes, I am very thankful for health care.

      I would love to hear more about your Great White Shark experience! What’s the story? What’s it like to see one in the wild?

      I’m fascinated by sharks. I just watched Jaws a couple of days ago. I also read about all of the major shark attacks in the last 50 years. I think last week was shark week on the Discovery Channel.

      • Tom

        Spiders and now sharks, your readers are going to be traumatised!
        Oh well, here goes…
        When I turned around to go back to shore I saw a shark which had been following me for I don’t know how long. I was near a steep rocky shore that I couldn’t be sure I could land on without capsizing and 1 km from a safe landing. I kept paddling at the same steady rate I had on the way out. The shark followed in slightly deeper water over my left shoulder about 30 – 40 metres away. There were dolphins swimming with it so I got a good gauge of the size which was more than 4 metres. It followed like that for about 500 metres. I got into the shallows (but still not near a landing place) and it went away to check out a boat a few hundred metres further out but I still had a line out and I hooked a fish. I panicked when I couldn’t find my knife to cut the line and I wound the fish in and released it. While I was doing that I drifted back into deeper water. In my panic I started paddling as hard as I could for the beach. The shark noticed and came back, I was still 100 metres out by the time it closed the gap between us to about a body length, dorsal and tail out of the water. Then it just turned and glided off to one side.

        If it wanted to eat me it would have, I wouldn’t have even known it was there. I figure even if it came in for a curiosity bite I would have been screwed.

        • http://deepexistence.com/ Stephen Guise

          Holy crap Tom…

          That is an experience that most people will never have. I bet your heart rate was pretty extreme and that it felt nice to finally reach land, huh?

          Honestly, I have some interest in the crazy Great White Shark cage tourist experience that Australia is known for. I would be terrified (especially because I’ve seen the sharks bust through those cages), but I am so fascinated with these magnificent creatures.

          • Tom

            People often tell me I am crazy for fishing from a kayak but the chances of even encountering a shark that size (I see smaller sharks all the time) are tiny and the chance that it will eat you are even smaller. As you’ve shown with your experience, you can still get into trouble if you stay at home. If I didn’t go kayak fishing I wouldn’t have seen the shark but I also would have missed seeing all the seals, dolphins, turtles, whales and smaller, friendly sharks that I have seen.

  • http://www.scrollwork.blogspot.com Scrollwork: Quirkyisms from a Tropical Transplant

    Aww, you write so wisely that I forgot you’re a young whippersnapper and the first thing you can do when in crisis is knock on your parents’ bedroom door. Makes me wish our youngest daughter, who will be 24, lived close by.

    I’m looking at the semi-deflated volcano under my right ‘pit, two weeks since the bite, and thanking the Almighty I am either not allergic or the spider wasn’t venomous. It’s my second bite in my entire life. Funny about the timing. Do you think we have a karmic connection?

    Thanks for the unrelated addendum about humor and the sewing blog. I’m off to investigate, as in my offline life I am attempting to sell what I sew but haven’t so far figured out how to blog about it in any way worth reading.

    Glad you’re gonna be OK, little one.

    • http://deepexistence.com/ Stephen Guise

      Haha, comments like that really motivate me to move out. :-P

      The only reason I’m here is because I’m trying to make it on my own before I am forced to settle for a corporate job.

      We must have a connection (or else the spiders are revolting). I seem to be pretty allergic to many insects. When a mosquito bites me, the welt that appears on my skin shortly after is…huge. I seem to react normally to bee stings.

      I hope your volcano deflates painlessly. :-D

      Little one?! That makes me want to go to the gym. You probably didn’t even know you were motivating me, did you? :-P

      • http://www.scrollwork.blogspot.com Scrollwork: Quirkyisms from a Tropical Transplant

        I know, I read all about you, I know how hard it is out there. Don’t be motivated. You are awesome. The spider bite episode must’ve dented your armor a little bit. You are already successful (see, that’s from another post of yours.) I am not being sarcastic! And take Little One as a term of endearment from this (hot) granny.

        • http://deepexistence.com/ Stephen Guise

          It’s ok, I want to be motivated to be (more) awesome.

          I think the spider bite made me stronger, actually. It made me less fearful of spiders. It motivated me to work hard once I’m off antibiotics. I think I have a better perspective of life now.

          I see that you’re well-versed in Deep Existence-ology! I appreciate your words very much, Scrollwork. I’m glad to hear you’re a hot granny too, lol. :-)

  • Glynis Jolly

    Hi Stephen. Sorry I took so long to read this. Sorry again, I was laughing.

    Why don’t you want to take antibiotics? They aren’t forever and they’ll keep you feeling good for quite awhile. However, I do understand about the prednisone. I’m still weaning myself off a drug that I was put on a year ago. Almost done with it though. :)

    • http://deepexistence.com/ Stephen Guise

      Hi Glynis,

      I’m glad you found it funny. I really don’t like to take any drugs at all. I’m not sure the antibiotics were necessary, but I’ve been taking them and today is the last day!

      Prednisone is the worst. I hope I never have to consider taking it again. It was scary when I had no control over my racing heart!

  • http://doj.me/ Is It Down

    I am TERRIFIED of spiders – so naturally I read this entire thing start to finish, shuddering at many parts… Probably the same reason I watch Shark Week even though I’m also scared to death of sharks. Come to think of it, I’m not really sure what that reason actually is either! Thoughts? ;)

    Laurie

    • http://deepexistence.com/ Stephen Guise

      Just like how people watch scary movies, I think people are fascinated by things that intimidate them. We enjoy observing them as long as we’re safe! Even with spiders, I will observe them because they’re interesting to me.

      Sharks are so interesting to me partly because they are the rulers of a different world (the ocean).