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The Tomorrow Delusion: A Procrastination Story

“Never leave that till tomorrow which you can do today.”

~ Benjamin Franklin

The nature of tomorrow creates a game out of life. 

A while back, I wrote about tomorrow. It was not a love note. It was more of a grab-the-pitchfork-and-let’s-take-this-beast-down kind of note.

Tomorrow is the day of promises. It’s tied to hope in a delightful sick way. When you’re hopeful for something, you’re looking to the future to provide it. Tomorrow is exciting because, in theory, it could provide all that you hope for. 

Let’s take that one step further. Tomorrow can provide more than just what you hope for. You can plan! I can plan to wash the dishes tomorrow and I won’t be stopped unless something crazy happens or I delay it. It’s something I can more or less count on happening if I intentionally do it. 

The problem with this game is that many of us are playing without knowing all of the rules. Today? Today!

Sports Videos: Never Give Up


“Defeat is not defeat unless accepted as a reality in your own mind.”  ~ Bruce Lee

“Never give up, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.” ~ Harriet Beecher Stowe

If life is tough and you have problems, you are a human being. Nice job. If these struggles bring you down emotionally and sap your motivation, there’s a small, but powerful phrase that can pull you out of the doldrums. 

Never give up.

In every person’s life, and in every path to success, there are Keep Trying!

Don’t Be Efficient, Be Effective


Efficiency is meaningless on its own. Literally meaningless.

What if I told you that I am the most efficient rice organizer you’ve ever seen? Oh yeah. Give me a full bag of rice, and I’ll line up the grains in four hundred symmetrical rows. I can organize the full bag like this in only three minutes because I know how to efficiently distribute the rice without wasting any time or movement. 

But wait…

After such masterful efficiency, all I have is table covered in rice.

I’ll Be Effective!

The Chase

When they are racing it helps to determine the outcome of a race in a photo finish. It also protects them from injuring themselves or other dogs. (source: photo by

Required caption: Who let the dogs out? (photo by Mamboman1)

People chase rabbits.

Not real, fluffy rabbits. Metaphorical rabbits.

One of my favorite metaphors for life is a greyhound dog race: the dogs run at 39 MPH trying to catch a mechanical rabbit that is always just ahead of them. Think about this as a metaphor for our lives and the goals we set: it’s an interesting, slightly depressing, and eerily accurate depiction of what we do.

We strive to reach goals, but even as we reach one, there’s always another. We’ll never 100% complete our potential. We’ll never find every answer. But we still chase these things. Why? What’s the benefit? Is it better than not chasing things? [click to continue…]

New Book: How to Be an Imperfectionist

How to Be an Imperfectionist is now available!


Imagine that there is a 10,000 pound elephant in the road blocking traffic and you’re tasked to clear the road. The driver behind you yells out the solution: “Push the elephant out of the way!”

Pushing the elephant away would certainly clear the road; the solution makes sense. But can you actually push a 10,000 pound elephant out of the way? Probably not, and you might get stomped. That leads us to an important insight.

Solutions are worthless unless you’re able to successfully implement them.

How to Be an Imperfectionist is here. It is my second book. As the title indicates, it is a “how to” book, but unlike most how-to books or articles you’ll read, this book smartly incorporates the science of change into its perfectionism-reversing solutions.  Be an Imperfectionist…