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3 Myths About Passion That Hold People Back


This man to the far right of this picture has been creating sand art for 26 years!

“If I could just find my passion, then I could succeed.”

Have you ever had this thought? I’ve had it before, but I’ve since realized it’s completely backwards. It is the first passion myth. 

Myth: Passion Is Found

Truth: passion is not found, it is developed. See the myths…

14 Lessons I’ve Learned In 30 Years

I was 29 in this picture. *sniff sniff*

I was 29 in this picture. *sniff sniff*

I just turned 30. Here’s what I’ve learned.

14. The future is unpredictable, and that’s okay.

  • I thought I’d be a successful stock market guru or working in finance. I thought I’d use my degree. Instead I ended up being an author, and I love it.
  • I figured I’d be married by 25 or be devastated. I’m still not married at 30, but I’m not devastated either. I feel very fortunate to have had this time to grow into my identity. Yeah, I get lonely, but the upside has been much greater than expected.
  • I never thought I’d live in Seattle, WA. I never thought I’d move 3 times in one year either.
  • Every August since 1991, I thought the Detroit Lions would win the Super Bowl. Maybe next year?

Nobody knows what will happen. Life is about doing your best with whatever happens. What you want initially isn’t always what’s best for you.

You’re Old, Dude

You Don’t Have To Fill Every Second

Do you ever find yourself mindlessly checking things like websites, book sales, social media, and website traffic? When I do this, it’s because I feel as if I need to fill every second with an activity. I will even cycle back to websites I just visited in order to be “doing something.”

Take a Moment

If you don’t grant yourself a spare moment to stop and consider your next move, you’re going to go through the motions and burn time. 

So if you find yourself procrastinating and wasting time, give yourself a moment. Simply sit or stand in place while you think. Not every moment must be filled with an activity, and if you try to force that, you will participate in more meaningless activities.

Doing nothing is one step ahead of mindlessly wasting time because wasting time is hiding the fact that you’re doing nothing. If you don’t have anything to do, the solution is not to give in to the nearest distraction, it’s to figure out what to do!

The Tomorrow Delusion: A Procrastination Story

“Never leave that till tomorrow which you can do today.”

~ Benjamin Franklin

The nature of tomorrow creates a game out of life. 

A while back, I wrote about tomorrow. It was not a love note. It was more of a grab-the-pitchfork-and-let’s-take-this-beast-down kind of note.

Tomorrow is the day of promises. It’s tied to hope in a delightful sick way. When you’re hopeful for something, you’re looking to the future to provide it. Tomorrow is exciting because, in theory, it could provide all that you hope for. 

Let’s take that one step further. Tomorrow can provide more than just what you hope for. You can plan! I can plan to wash the dishes tomorrow and I won’t be stopped unless something crazy happens or I delay it. It’s something I can more or less count on happening if I intentionally do it. 

The problem with this game is that many of us are playing without knowing all of the rules. Today? Today!